Ever tried working out in a gym all by yourself? It is possible but it is very boring. Besides it can be very risky especially if you are lifting heavy weights. What if you lost your grip and the weights fell on you? Or, what if you got a muscle pull in the middle of lifting the weights and you needed help? All those are real life scenarios that have happened in the past. It is best to have a gym partner for better results. This is not just in the gym but in every part of our lives. Like my favourite book says, two heads are better than one, and like someone else said, if you want to walk fast then go alone but if you want to go far, then go with someone else. I believe this is so that when you feel down, low or tired the other person can encourage you not to give up. Like Albert Schweitzer said, in everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the... [Continue reading]
Every so often it is recommended that we detoxify our bodies to remove all the toxic stuff we often stuff ourselves with, such as processed foods aka junk food, to hazardous products such as cigarattes and lately shisha, to name just a few. However, how often do we go through the same detoxifying process when it comes to the relationships we keep? A lot of people know that it is a good idea to remove toxic people from their lives. Infact, it is MANDATORY to do so very often, but unforunately not many have the guts to do so. Why let negative and toxic people rent space in your head? Isn't it time you raised the rent (by setting boundaries) or kicked them out permanently? There's nothing wrong with setting boundaries for yourself when it comes to other people's behavior around you. You're not asking them to change for you - you are simply making it known that toxic attitudes or behavior around you isn't allowed. You are the steward for your life and allowing toxicity around you denies... [Continue reading]
Like Lucas Jonkman said, fight your fears and you’ll be in battle forever but face your fears and you’ll be free forever. In other words, if you resist your fears, they will keep persisting, until the day you choose to face them and overcome them. For instance, if you are aquaphobic, the only way to overcome that fear is by taking the step towards facing your tormentor i.e. water, especially big water bodies. You could start by swimming in a big swimming pool or in the ocean, or walking by the beach where the water from the ocean keeps lapping at your feet/legs, or by going sailing, etc. You do this often enough, that fear will slowly ebb. Whether it is the fear of flying, or the fear of water, whatever fear it is you allow, you need to realize that in most cases, fear hampers success. You want to succeed? Then take a step of faith and face your fears and chances are likely that you will realize that they were just a combination of False Evidence Appearing Real. Remember, FEAR is a... [Continue reading]
You busy fuming and fretting over what people around you are saying about you? Then you need to read this paraphrased message picked from a T. D. Jakes Sermon.... "Why would you waste your time and energy trying to change what other people think about you, when their thoughts have no bearing on your life? STOP trying to change peoples thoughts and let them think what they want. You don't have time to be a steward over someone else's thoughts. Instead, be a steward of your own thoughts and through them create your own future and destiny...." Stop wasting your time and space in your mind wondering what they are up to. Focus on your thoughts today and always.
Webster's Dictionary defines trust as the “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.” Many managers believe that one of the main keys to the survival of any business is trust. Trust is a critical issue in any type of relationship because a relationship without trust is not really a relationship at all. Unfortunately, one of the problems that managers encounter when dealing with teams is that managers cannot automatically instill trust into their associates. Even with the appropriate individuals on a team, a team that does not build a trusting relationship is not an effective team. Research shows that trust is the basis for creating a healthy work environment. According to Heathfield (2002a), trust is the necessary precursor for the following: Feeling able to rely upon another person; Cooperating as a group; Taking thoughtful risks; Experiencing believable communication. In other words, “trust forms the foundation for effective... [Continue reading]
Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile soil. The first seed said, "I want to grow! I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth's crust above me ... I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring ... I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals!" And so she grew... The second seed said, "Hmmmm. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don't know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts ... what if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe." And so she waited... A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it. Moral of the story is: You block your dream when you allow your... [Continue reading]
Why is it so hard for human beings to understand the power of working together, aka, TEAMWORK? What joy do people get out of working against each other instead of working together? Further still, why do people tend to get a kick out of bringing other people down? You see, this is the problem we have especially Africans. People have this wrong perception that if you help someone achieve something then their achievement takes something out of you. What a warped way of reasoning! Actually, the reverse is true. The more you help people achieve their goals and attain their successes, something positive happens to you too. You grow exponentially. Like the good book says, when you give, it always comes back to you. When you invest in helping someone else achieve their goals/dreams by showing them the ropes, you automatically become blessed. The blessing may not be monetary or even visible, but it is there. For one, you become a guru as a result of repeatedly helping others. In the process,... [Continue reading]
Once upon a time, there was a tortoise who lived in a tank. He made friends with two geese who used to come and visit him at the tank. They were happy for many years. Then there was a drought that lasted for months. The tanks and rivers started drying up under the burning sun. The people and animals were starving and the birds were migrating to more fertile lands. The two geese decided to save themselves and go away. So they came to say a sad goodbye to their friend the tortoise. The poor tortoise could not believe that they could leave him behind to die. The geese wondered how they could save their friend too. The problem was that they did not know how to take him along because the tortoise could not fly. The tortoise came up with an idea. He told the geese to get him a stick that he could hold between his teeth. The geese could then take him to a more fertile land flying slowly while holding the two ends of the stick. But the geese were worried that if the... [Continue reading]
Once upon a time there were five monkeys who lived together for a very long time. Each morning they would wake up and go up a tree that was close by, with a bunch of bananas to feed on for the day. Each evening they would go down the tree to rest for the night, and start the same process the next day. Though they lived in a very big forest, all they were familiar with was the tree they spent their day on top of and its immediate surroundings, where they slept at night. One day one of them asked his mates, "we have been doing this for a long time, following the same monotonous and repetitive schedule like clockwork every day. All we have managed to do is grow fat physically but thin mentally. Is this all life is about? Is this all we were created to do?" The other four were silent for a few minutes, obviously thinking hard about what their mate had said. Finally one of them said, "it is true we have not done anything worth talking about all our life. I think it's time we left this tree... [Continue reading]
Paths without obstacles don't lead anywhere important. A successful person will never see a day that does not bring a fresh quota of problems. What makes him different, what makes him successful is his ability to deal with those problems effectively. He sees those impossible situations as opportunities to convert them into possible situations. What are you seeing when you look at the obstacles on your path right now? Thought borrowed from a friend, Regina Kavisu Mwengi
Today I write this message from a place of feeling very discouraged. I write this from a place of feeling tired by things that are going on around me. I write this from a point of acknowledging that every day is different from the next. If you are going through such a time, tooday I am you and I share this word of encouragement to uplift you and I both. There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren’t the way you had hoped they would be. Times when you try so hard to smile on the outside while you are dying gradualy on the inside; today is such a day for me. It is during such times that you shouldn’t give up. That’s when you have to tell yourself that things will get better, just like I am telling myself today. It is true that you may be feeling disappointed because even your closest friends may have let you down. They made promises they couldn’t keep and now all of a sudden you feel alone, disappointed and probably angry. It could be because of the loss of a... [Continue reading]
This week's message is a dedication to Kenya and all her residents: The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity - Ulysses S. Grant Kenyans (including non Kenyans living in Kenya) have shown commendable unity and togetherness during this very trying time. They have shown what it means "Being your Brother's Keeper". For once tribalism, class, race and religion have not been able to divide us. My hope and prayer is that even after this is over, the same brotherhood/sisterhood and togetherness that we have been demonstrating in the last couple of days will continue. God bless Kenya and all those who come from and live in this beautiful country.