Every so often we are faced with moments when we have to make very tough decisions in life. During such times, it is normal to feel lost, sometimes you feel confused, other times you feel heavily disoriented, other times you feel unusure, afraid, etc - amid other very many unsettling emotions. The one thing I have learnt is that if your "why" is solid enough, then the "how" will fall in place. One thing you need to know is that not everyone will agree with your decision and infact, the more you discuss the situation with people, the more they add to the unsettling emotions mentioned above. So, when you have to make a decision but fear engulfs you, remember this; it's easier to look back and say, "at least I tried and failed" than to say "I wish I had done that". You'll never know what you could have done until you attempt to do it.
Forgetting the past and moving on is easier said than done. Enough times I have struggled with many elements of my past but thankfully with prayer and trust in God, I have been able to let go. Maybe you are in such a place right now, a place of being unable to let go. If you can say this prayer and mean it, I believe you will get the strength to let go and let God. Heavenly Father, It is time for me to forget the past, forget the mistakes and focus on what you are doing in my life today. I know you are doing a new thing. I know you are placing the right people in my life and removing the wrong ones. You are closing old doors and preparing me for new opportunities. The pruning process can be uncomfortable and painful but I know it is for my own good. I totally trust you. In Jesus' name, Amen. May God bless you and give you strength as you start creating a new past for yourself.
I think this image says it all and so I will not water down it's message by saying much. I'll only say this, if you spend time planning, then situations like this will be limited.
Every so often the power supply company in Tanzania, TANESCO, decides to cut off power without prior warning to its customers. As a result, consumers have had to look at alternative solutions to this irritating challenge posed by TANESCO. Most users opt to buy generators as an alternative source of power but no matter how powerful the generator is, depending on the capacity and the power it uses, at some poing the generator will have to be switched off to cool off for some minutes before being switched on again, otherwise instead of helping it might end up being a hazard. Same case applies to the human body; it requires to be cooled off every so often. As a human being your body can only be able to do so much in a day then after that you will be required to give it a break and let it rest. This I speak for both the physical you and the mental you. It is during this time of rest and quiet that you get to take stock of your day and if possible, make better plans for the next day. Like... [Continue reading]
Ever tried working out in a gym all by yourself? It is possible but it is very boring. Besides it can be very risky especially if you are lifting heavy weights. What if you lost your grip and the weights fell on you? Or, what if you got a muscle pull in the middle of lifting the weights and you needed help? All those are real life scenarios that have happened in the past. It is best to have a gym partner for better results. This is not just in the gym but in every part of our lives. Like my favourite book says, two heads are better than one, and like someone else said, if you want to walk fast then go alone but if you want to go far, then go with someone else. I believe this is so that when you feel down, low or tired the other person can encourage you not to give up. Like Albert Schweitzer said, in everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the... [Continue reading]
Every so often it is recommended that we detoxify our bodies to remove all the toxic stuff we often stuff ourselves with, such as processed foods aka junk food, to hazardous products such as cigarattes and lately shisha, to name just a few. However, how often do we go through the same detoxifying process when it comes to the relationships we keep? A lot of people know that it is a good idea to remove toxic people from their lives. Infact, it is MANDATORY to do so very often, but unforunately not many have the guts to do so. Why let negative and toxic people rent space in your head? Isn't it time you raised the rent (by setting boundaries) or kicked them out permanently? There's nothing wrong with setting boundaries for yourself when it comes to other people's behavior around you. You're not asking them to change for you - you are simply making it known that toxic attitudes or behavior around you isn't allowed. You are the steward for your life and allowing toxicity around you denies... [Continue reading]
Like Lucas Jonkman said, fight your fears and you’ll be in battle forever but face your fears and you’ll be free forever. In other words, if you resist your fears, they will keep persisting, until the day you choose to face them and overcome them. For instance, if you are aquaphobic, the only way to overcome that fear is by taking the step towards facing your tormentor i.e. water, especially big water bodies. You could start by swimming in a big swimming pool or in the ocean, or walking by the beach where the water from the ocean keeps lapping at your feet/legs, or by going sailing, etc. You do this often enough, that fear will slowly ebb. Whether it is the fear of flying, or the fear of water, whatever fear it is you allow, you need to realize that in most cases, fear hampers success. You want to succeed? Then take a step of faith and face your fears and chances are likely that you will realize that they were just a combination of False Evidence Appearing Real. Remember, FEAR is a... [Continue reading]
You busy fuming and fretting over what people around you are saying about you? Then you need to read this paraphrased message picked from a T. D. Jakes Sermon.... "Why would you waste your time and energy trying to change what other people think about you, when their thoughts have no bearing on your life? STOP trying to change peoples thoughts and let them think what they want. You don't have time to be a steward over someone else's thoughts. Instead, be a steward of your own thoughts and through them create your own future and destiny...." Stop wasting your time and space in your mind wondering what they are up to. Focus on your thoughts today and always.
Webster's Dictionary defines trust as the “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.” Many managers believe that one of the main keys to the survival of any business is trust. Trust is a critical issue in any type of relationship because a relationship without trust is not really a relationship at all. Unfortunately, one of the problems that managers encounter when dealing with teams is that managers cannot automatically instill trust into their associates. Even with the appropriate individuals on a team, a team that does not build a trusting relationship is not an effective team. Research shows that trust is the basis for creating a healthy work environment. According to Heathfield (2002a), trust is the necessary precursor for the following: Feeling able to rely upon another person; Cooperating as a group; Taking thoughtful risks; Experiencing believable communication. In other words, “trust forms the foundation for effective... [Continue reading]
Two seeds lay side by side in the fertile soil. The first seed said, "I want to grow! I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth's crust above me ... I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring ... I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals!" And so she grew... The second seed said, "Hmmmm. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don't know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts ... what if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe." And so she waited... A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it. Moral of the story is: You block your dream when you allow your... [Continue reading]
Why is it so hard for human beings to understand the power of working together, aka, TEAMWORK? What joy do people get out of working against each other instead of working together? Further still, why do people tend to get a kick out of bringing other people down? You see, this is the problem we have especially Africans. People have this wrong perception that if you help someone achieve something then their achievement takes something out of you. What a warped way of reasoning! Actually, the reverse is true. The more you help people achieve their goals and attain their successes, something positive happens to you too. You grow exponentially. Like the good book says, when you give, it always comes back to you. When you invest in helping someone else achieve their goals/dreams by showing them the ropes, you automatically become blessed. The blessing may not be monetary or even visible, but it is there. For one, you become a guru as a result of repeatedly helping others. In the process,... [Continue reading]
Once upon a time, there was a tortoise who lived in a tank. He made friends with two geese who used to come and visit him at the tank. They were happy for many years. Then there was a drought that lasted for months. The tanks and rivers started drying up under the burning sun. The people and animals were starving and the birds were migrating to more fertile lands. The two geese decided to save themselves and go away. So they came to say a sad goodbye to their friend the tortoise. The poor tortoise could not believe that they could leave him behind to die. The geese wondered how they could save their friend too. The problem was that they did not know how to take him along because the tortoise could not fly. The tortoise came up with an idea. He told the geese to get him a stick that he could hold between his teeth. The geese could then take him to a more fertile land flying slowly while holding the two ends of the stick. But the geese were worried that if the... [Continue reading]